If only I knew then what I know now…..
I don’t believe it is a good thing to dwell on the past. However, at the same time, if we are to learn from the past we must take a look back into the archives of our lives. We can not change what has been done or undo decisions we have made. I started to say make decisions we did not but really, those were decisions also and can not be changed. Life is filled with decisions and though we can not change the ones that have been made, Lord willing we can learn from them.
What are the decisions I regret you ask. I’m not sure how willing I am to get into that here but give me a call or shoot me an email if you must know J What I am willing and here to discuss is some of the things I have learned.
Just a few minutes ago I was chatting with an old friend via Facebook chat. I have not seen this person but once in the last 12 years or so and yet we can talk like it was yesterday. This person is one of the single best friends I have ever had. The importance of a good friendship is something I have learned the hard way. Another friend of mine has a magnet on his fridge. It simply says “Happiness is being married to your best friend”. Not Happiness is having tons of money or being married to a “hottie” or having the perfect job or a great house. Could friendship be the key to life to the fullest. Even God calls Abraham His friend. WOW, if that doesn’t give us some perspective. “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Have you tried to give advice or discuss important things with someone who is not a friend?! Good luck with that. You might as well be living in the song “the gambler”. Watch out for your cigars and whiskey!
I don’t believe that marriage is required for happiness but I do know God says it is not good for man to be alone. We all know some of the obvious reasons for that but there is more I think. I know a few single people that are getting up in age. Some who were never married and some who were. Those that had long marriages and lost someone seem to feel they have lost part of themselves but do not regret the way they lived. Those that have been alone often feel the pain of that loneliness. This is not always the case, just some of my observation. Also, not where I thought this post would go.
We need true real friendships. Friends that can tell us we are impatient or when we are being stupid. Friends that won’t pull punches but will still love us after the I told you so’s are done and gone. Some of us are lucky enough to have that type of friend around us regularly. Some of us wonder why we do not. Maybe it is us, are we a good friend? Are we honest yet kind. Are we there when we are needed and do we care about others more than ourselves? Are we the friend we want to have? If not, why and are we willing to change.
There is one who sticks closer than a brother.
He will never leave you nor forsake you.
He will not make life easier for you but will carry you thru the times you feel you are not able to continue.
I’ll take this time to thank those who have been there for me.
To my mom: thank you for all the prayers and never giving up on me.
DK: for being that friend
KW: for making me laugh and being my friend after all we’ve been thru
Most of to my savior: without whom I would not be here today. May my life somehow be pleasing to you.
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